I had an interesting conversation with my husband last night, he has lost 80 lbs. over the past few years. He still struggles with sugary foods and we had a breakthrough of sorts.
At the end of a hard day, in which he’s given 110% of himself to work, he feels entitled to wolf down a bunch of cookies. While I do believe we need to indulge ourselves from time to time (it’s all about balance), he feels drawn to sugar as a reward and escape.
He said he feels like it’s his inner child that is yearning for the reward, as if he’s mad at all the work that goes on every day. I think he’s on to something. We condition our children from a very young age that junk food (especially sweets) are a reward for good behavior. So, as adults, when we turn to sweets to feel good, why are we surprised? It’s time to de-condition ourselves from this.
At the time of our talk, I was reading my “guilty pleasure” book, a collection of short stories- good fiction. As a child I loved to read, and continue to do so as a treat to myself. Hey- it doesn’t involve food! I asked David what he could do to take care of himself in a similar way. He’s going to make a list of things that delight him, and he may have to think back to what he loved to do as a kid.
Does this resonate with you? How do you cope with these cravings? How can you replace them with non-food pleasures?