When I talk to clients about their fitness goals, more often than not they are all about looks: ”I want to lose 35 pounds,” “I want to wear the clothes that no longer fit that are sitting in my closet,” “I want to be a size 4.” While each of these is worth striving toward, it’s the focus on appearance that can keep the same clients from getting what they want.
The concept to which I cling (while hard to teach) is looks are a side effect of fitness, an inevitable result that doesn’t deserve a whole lot of thought. Yes, I want you to look good, but more importantly, I want you to live “good”.
In Experience Life magazine, Jennifer Pharr Davis, endurance hiker shares: “It [hiking] made me feel beautiful and helped my self-esteem and self-confidence. That doesn’t seem to make a lot of sense because I was dirty and stinky and covered in bug bites, but for five months I didn’t wake up every morning and look in the mirror. I wasn’t worried about my appearance and so I began to see myself in a new way — and to think about beauty in a new way. I began to see my reflection through my interactions with other people on the trail. So if I was kind, if I smiled at someone when they needed a smile, then I felt beautiful. And I certainly had a new appreciation and respect for my body after it traveled over 2,000 miles by foot. All those realizations changed who I was as a person.”
You cannot recognize your inherent value when you are obsessed with your reflection. Look within, recognize that you are a miracle. Shift your focus to what truly matters.
I see so many people on a quest for beauty when they already have it. When you live from the knowledge that you are already gorgeous, you will create it on the outside without much effort. Wallowing in the false ideas that: there is something wrong with you, you don’t measure up, you need to improve… keeps you in a downward spiral of self-destruction and self-sabotage.
You care for what you value. Life is a beautiful gift, treat your body like the miracle it is. Take your journey to health slowly, it’s not about deprivation, it’s about indulging in the good stuff (food and exercise). Care more about the inside now, and you will begin to radiate.
I’m here to remind you, you are crazy beautiful, now and forever. Now go live it.